5 Dec 2025
Health
Health Mental health Star Psychology

The Laughter of Recognition

Most people think therapy is all tears and tissues — not laughter. Sure, sometimes you laugh in a dark, self-deprecating kind of way, but it’s rare that joy fills the room. Back when I was running the Turning Point counselling centre, I kept hearing bursts of laughter coming from the office next door. Actual, belly-deep […]

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Are you OK?

It will hardly have escaped your notice that we are living in changing times, indeed, rapidly changing times. Depending on your mindset, we are either going to hell in handbasket or we’re seeing the last dregs of a corrupt and elitist world, floating to the surface to enable something new to be born. I wanted […]

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Confessions of a healthcare avoider

For the past months I have not been feeling well enough to put my fingers to the keyboard to share any thoughts about love, life, and learning. I’ve been sick. And when I am sick, I crawl into my basket, pull the blanket over my head and hope things will pass soon. I don’t go […]

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Winter cocooning at 60 degrees north

My Christmas school reports were always the worst. I was slow to start up again after the summer break, and by the end of October my synapses would fire more slowly while I gently dozed off as the nights drew in and the light faded from the horizon. Then I moved to Sweden in my […]

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What if things don’t happen for a reason?

The expression, ‘everything happens for a reason’ makes my toes curl. Especially when it is uttered with a helpless shrug of the shoulder and the underlying subtext of ‘moving on’. What if things don’t happen for a reason and there is no deeper meaning? Endless analyses and reflections will often present reasons why something has […]

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Adressing Cultural Shadows

‘Sharing the Dove’ is a Dutch initiative by four young people with Jewish and Muslim backgrounds. Their aim is to keep the dialogue open and transcend differences. They give workshops in schools and last week they brought together two rabbis, two imams, a Dutch priest and a Syrian Orthodox bishop for an open dialogue about […]

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No one tells the truth in therapy

Summary: psychology has helped us to see that everyone holds a personal, subjective version of the truth. While this is better than the authoritarian believe what I tell you paradigm, there are more steps to take. Otherwise, many will continue to confuse ‘my’ truth with ‘the’ truth, leading to self-victimisation and splitting. Two children get […]

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Befriending the green-eyed monster

A former colleague has just been awarded a really influential role in a government advisory committee. I am happy for her, but also feel that familiar pang of envy. It reminds me of how I felt about a close schoolfriend. She worked hard for high grades and in the weeks before our exams she would […]

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Taking ownership of your relocation

At this time of the year, we play musical chairs in the world of international relocation. For families with children, the summer holidays are the perfect time to relocate. And the many love-refugees just don’t want the summer to end. We live in a place of transience and most of us see our current abode […]

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The shadow as a guide to new inner frontiers

International nomads have much in common; a sense of adventure, courage, adaptability and even a touch of the romantic. We flock together because we find a sense of belonging in ‘otherness’. Having attempted to woe our new neighbours with muffins and homemade lasagna, we may give up and settle for the easy intimacy of the […]

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