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Swedish Love | Your thoughts
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Swedish Love | Your thoughts

In the lead up to our Love competition, we have searched the web on all topics to do with Dating in Sweden. We have asked people their thoughts on courting Swedish women and Swedish men and one thing for sure we have gathered …. most people feel the dating scene in Sweden is confusing to say the least …

“Swedish men and women seem pretty different to me, it seems that the men don’t have to do much work in getting ladies because the women seem to make most of the advances, I swear they are another breed :P, they are very strong women. In America the women usually sit back and wait for the guys, but in Sweden the men sit back and wait for the ladies.” Shana.

Read the full blogs on Dating in Sweden @ Lost in Stockholm >

Its true to say that the dating topic has no end and no beginnings. So to get the ball rolling, here’s a little taste of what people are saying about Dating in Stockholm. Just to whet your appetite 😉

And so the stories go……

 

‘Just because you had a fika with a (Swedish) girl in a castle does not mean she will see it as a date.’ 

Ben Mack goes on to say, in his blog ‘True confessions of Swedish dating disasters’, “… then disaster struck. I asked her to dinner, assuming the answer would be an automatic “yes.” Instead, I received a text message explaining that dinner would feel “too much like a date.” Read the full blog >

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“Swedish women are HOT but not to be trusted!” Sean

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‘ONLINE dating is HUGE in sweden. It suits the reserved swedes who like to make those first moves from the safety of their own computers. I was initially skeptical until I found out its done by young and old these days, ranging from straight forward dating sites to more ‘social sites’ like www.finest.se and then ranging as far as sites like  www.victoriamilan.se  which is basically selling to the swedish people ‘discreet affairs’. I mean, WTF! This site was launched last year, because there is obviously a main stream market for such things! I do think however that online dating can get you through the cold winter months and make it easier for an interested swede to check off his/her list of criteria for the ideal mate: Education. Family. Background. Its true! But more commonly young stockholmers use it as a way to get to know someone first,  cyber flirt, get a mobile number, txt when drunk for a few months, and then meet for ‘discreet fun’!   Sam

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“He asked me out once but I couldn’t go as I was away. So am I now expected to ask him out. Being an English woman I just thought he would ask again if he liked me but am I wrong in that if his Swedish part is at the fore lol. Really its too confusing!”Emelie

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“Why do Swedes have to do all this pussy-footing around to find love and a relationship? Cant they just be upfront and honest and decent?! I bet deep down many Swedish men and woman cry at night in fear of an old age spent beautiful, lonely and alone!” Sarah

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“Girls here (Stockholm) are not unwilling to sleep with you the first night you meet them. And very often they already have a boyfriend when doing so. I think that is a reason why dating here is rather slow, you can never be sure if the other one is sleeping around or even already being in a relationshop while dating you”. Björn

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“You forgot one thing; if there’s anything a Swedish girl wants in a man, then its good looks. That’s why they usually settle with Swedish guys. Foreigners aren’t as attractive as Swedes (mostly) and we’re a shallow people”. Josefin

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“My Swedish bf is the most amazing man on earth … but he still says I  ‘like’ you … why s it that hard to say LOVE?” Roamingsoul

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HAHAHA!??! Whats wrong with you guys? Im from sweden and Wtf! You can’t write what swedish girls like and how they are like. They are people like everybody else? They are induvidiuals! DAMN! And not all swedish girls look like that, HAHA! It’s few that do. When I wen’t to Canada and the United States i saw a lot of far more beatufiul girls there then our pale white blond girls… boooring!’ Daniel

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“…what I’ve learned about my Swedish bf so far, well he is shy, kind, and well-mannered, has a heart the size of Jupiter, and is very thoughtful, smart, funny, and romantic. He told me that he’s happy I made the first move coz otherwise he would’ve been too shy to ever speak to me.” Magda

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“The best bet is not to sit around expecting things to happen. Make them happen!

Swedes are capable of carrying shopping and opening doors like the rest of us…you just need to yell at them and remind them sometimes,just like with the rest of the worlds guys!! 🙂” Dano

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“… falling in love I find really difficult, and especially since i dont’ believe in love at first sight. But attraction is different, love is something that follows and grows over time.”Per

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“I just spent ten days in Stockholm after backpacking my way around europe and Id have to say that the rules here seem to work like anywhere else. Have self confidence, no what you want and treat the ladies well. Or mabye Im just on a lucky streak” 😉Peter

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There are so many perspectives and experiences out there but we want to hear what it’s been like for YOU. Please feel free to comment as much as you like and if you have a lot more to say on Love, Sex and Dating in Sweden please enter our

   Love Competition! – entries close Dec 15th!

 

10 Comments

  • Pat 7 Dec 2011

    Sounds like a heap of generalizations to me but I guess that is what you get when people try and uncover the how’s and why’s of dating. Ive been married to a Swedish woman for 3 years and she is beautiful (not typical ‘swedish’ looking though) faithful, kind, humorous, adventurous and she loves being treated as a woman. We met in -Sweden. Yes, it happens. and she says she is very content with her english guy. I mean, who would trade a man for a ‘metrosexual’. whoops, did I just generalize?! Only kidding

  • Solan 7 Dec 2011

    “Whet” your appetite, not “wet”. 😉

  • Karen 7 Dec 2011

    Love it!

    I’ve been with a Swedish man for almost 5 years now.

    OK sometimes he drives me crazy with his inability to express his feelings, his constant upbeat attitude (yes, sometimes I just want him to have a winge), the fact that he totally content with being quite for almost all hours within the house. That being said, he is the most caring, thoughtful guy I’ve ever met. I much prefer the quite thoughtful type than the typical loud, bragging-all-the-time, American men I have dated in the past.

    But I’m sure glad I’m not dating in this city. I’m used to men hitting on me, but I get no love in Sweden. Sometimes I actually miss the cat calls by the local construction crew. I guess every country has their ups and downs.

  • Lily 7 Dec 2011

    Thanks Solan, an unfortunate error 😉

  • Karina 7 Dec 2011

    Why don’t you write something that will help us find Swedish man/lady?

  • Angela 10 Nov 2012

    I’m tired of dating american men :(, I wanna venture out of my kind and try a Swedish man?! 🙂 Life’s way to short to be in a relationship with a man from the continental United States??

  • vicky 1 Dec 2012

    Omg swedish guys are hot!

    I went on holiday to Majorca(Mallorca) and this tall blond swede was there with his mum. He was hot but polite very cute and sweet ,but shy with the talking.when I spoke to his mum he just stood there silently and smiled at me cutely.For a whole week we kept staring at each other when we were by the side of the pool or in the dinning hall for breakfast and lunch and my parents and his mum kept sitting on tables near to each other because they noticed the attraction between me and him .Sometimes we’d look at each other at the same time and look at the floor straight away because it was quite funny how we never stopped looking at each other.however until then I’d never met a Swede and I didn’t know they were shy so I was expecting him to come and talk to me or say hi but instead he’d just smile or look at me and nodded as a “hi”. I talked to his mum a few times she spoke lovely english and she was adorable so nice,well dressed and a well mannered woman. I absolutely loved her! And she would try and start a conversation with me when she could! I’m so sad that I didn’t make the first move because I never found out that guys name or got his facebook or number and he was geniuinely so hot ,nice and polite all at the same time and he had a great dress sense too!But I didn’t know swedish guys were shy ,now that I found out it makes a lot more sense why he just smiled and didn’t say anything, if I knew swedish guys were mostly like that I would have made the first more I regret not doing it.I should have listenened to my mum and dad because they were telling me to go and talk to him but I wouldn’t listen!On my last day I went down to the pool and I was going to ask him if I could get a picture with him but he had already left 🙁 So silly ,my holiday could have been so much better if I had plucked up the courage to talk to him!

    • Karina 6 Dec 2012

      Honestly, if he didn’t get your contacts, he wasn’t as interested as you were. Believe me. When a guy wants to talk to you, he will, regardless his nationality. I’ve dated swedish man, and I didn’t had to initiate the contact with ANY of them. 🙂

  • Date hot swedes 13 Dec 2014

    Wow… It’s fun reading this! Every thought was pretty educational. I love what Daniel say. ^^

  • Ariana 28 Sep 2017

    it was really a helpful article and now l know why he is acting too much though he keeps saying he never try to ignore me. Sometimes he texts with cute words but also says he’s just making a fun! Now l know it’s all because of shyness :/ but I’m a shy girl too. l never ask him anything directly until he’ll express himself :/

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