2 May 2026
psychology
Health Mental health

The hidden architecture of the self

How our inner selves are shaped, divided, and rediscovered Little Amy rests quietly in her mother’s womb, rocking to the gentle rhythm of a heartbeat. A dawning awareness surrounds her, she is sensation, presence, a soft unfolding. Held safely, she experiences a quiet joy, waiting for life to begin. In this stillness she becomes aware […]

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Health Mental health

It’s probably not about you

Triggered or targeted; who is it who is really reacting? The latest self-help phenomenon is a book called Let Them. Several clients and friends have asked me how “letting them” could possibly help with setting healthy boundaries or standing up for yourself. When I looked more closely, I realised the idea is far more nuanced […]

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Health Mental health Star Psychology

The Laughter of Recognition

Most people think therapy is all tears and tissues — not laughter. Sure, sometimes you laugh in a dark, self-deprecating kind of way, but it’s rare that joy fills the room. Back when I was running the Turning Point counselling centre, I kept hearing bursts of laughter coming from the office next door. Actual, belly-deep […]

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Health Mental health

What if things don’t happen for a reason?

The expression, ‘everything happens for a reason’ makes my toes curl. Especially when it is uttered with a helpless shrug of the shoulder and the underlying subtext of ‘moving on’. What if things don’t happen for a reason and there is no deeper meaning? Endless analyses and reflections will often present reasons why something has […]

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